So, what - or, I should say, who - is GirlDefined? Let's take a look:
Or do they?
Let's look at some of the blog titles Kristen and Bethany have published on girldefined.com:
It Takes a Brave Girl to Live Out Biblical Womanhood6 Guys You Shouldn’t Date, Court, or Marry
Single Girls: Look for a Guy With Vision, Passion, and PurposeProject Modesty: How to Combine Fashion and Modesty
Why I’m Not Jumping Into the Gender Blender4 Lies Our Raunch Culture is Feeding You
The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to know5 Wardrobe Hacks for Dressing Modestly
God’s Design for Sex is Way Better than Hollywood’s Cheap ImitationPraying for Your Future Husband
Real Women Know How to Accept an Act of Chivalry
8 Reasons We Aren’t Feminists
"Feminism, at its core... has tried to define womanhood on its own terms. It's not just about women's equality with men, it's about redefining womanhood altogether, according to man's and woman's terms, rather than how God defines womanhood.... One of my good friends, Erin Davis, who is a popular author, blogger, speaker, she wrote a blog recently called, "Why I'm not a Feminist." And it was awesome. She said, "If feminism is simply the advocacy for women's rights based on the idea that we are equal to men, I'm a believer. In truth, feminism is this radical idea, that women are God, capable of being their authority. "
I had to stop listening a few minutes after the above, because clearly these two sisters have a very strange and skewed view of feminism, one that can only come from one source - patriarchy. I also had to stop, because, quite honestly, it's really hard for me to listen to two young women go on about how they define their lives according to God's word while they plaster their own images all over the place, spend an extraordinary amount of money and effort on make up and hair styling, while they are the stereotypical "good girls" with pretty faces, long blond hair and blue eyes; the image that western society has long upheld as the godly norm for all women.
But let's dissect what GilrDefined thinks about feminism. In their opinion a feminist sees herself as her own God, capable of being her own authority. I would answer their curious comment with this: it all depends on how you see God and how you view authority. If you see God as someone who wants to put you in a really small box and keep you there, then yes, I would say they are right, for feminism rejects the cookie cutter thinking that such a view of God represents. And as far as authority is concerned, again, it all depends on how you view authority. If you see authority as something heavy-handed that is all about rules rather than empowerment, then yes, feminism rejects that too - and for a good reason. What I'm getting here is that GirlDefined believes in a very narrow view of God that fits a very narrow cultural way of life that they happened to grow up with. It has nothing to do with God.
Just by spending a few minutes on their website or FB page, you'll see quickly that there are only two topics that are discussed - looks and boys. According to GirlDefined, being pretty and finding the perfect husband is all good and well as long as you place God first in all things. That's it. It's a good old-fashioned finishing school approach to life, with a Christian makeover: as long as you (ostensibly or in real life) say that God comes first in your life, then you go girl! And this is also where it gets really annoying. GirlDefined? So this advice is for teens and pre-teens? Okay, let's assume it is, because a girl becomes a woman at age 18. So let's just assume that all their advice is to girls between 13-18 (because girls under 13 don't need their advice). Is this what we want our teens to hear? That they should dress modestly for God? (God doesn't care. God saw you naked in the womb and as you came, you shall leave.) That they should look for a young man who fits a narrow stereotype of what a "good Christian" looks like, to forever remain in the cookie cutter atmosphere that doesn't respect people's unique contributions or personalities? Is this what Christian freedom is all about? Heaven forbid!
I could be mean and say that Kristen and Bethany didn't make it in the modeling world, hence they looked for another way to be seen and heard by a rapt audience. But that would be extraordinarily un-Christian of me. So I must assume they have every good intention behind their attempt to re-educate girls, although one really must ask this - where's the need? Girls who grow up in the church are already inundated in both modesty and purity culture. Their every look and word is policed to avoid even the slightest hint of immodesty since the church spends most of its efforts on this. So why the need for yet another modesty police, even if it comes with glossy lipstick and professional photos that are very appealing? There is no need for it, and that is why I say that GirlDefined needs to be redefined according to a proper reading of the Bible, the one that says men and women are both equal by God's design, and no amount of gloss is going to change that.