The problem of advocacy is the lack of imminence when it comes to results. People think they will fix the world in a week, a year at most. A few years later they get impatient, and they either give up or get angry.
So angry in fact that they tell black women the first wave feminists were all racists and therefore their work should be discarded, effectively making feminism the problem instead of the solution. So angry that they tell everyone not to help Saudi women, because they are merely experiencing a cultrual issue and they can take care of themselves, especially since helping the women who live under the heavyhanded yoke of male guardianship would be Islamophobia. The hijab is a personal choice, we are told, while western women undress in public to protest sexual assault. It's easy to tell others to wade in the shade while enjoying the sunlight. Advocacy will never be effectively done by impatient, angry people, who suffer already from excess amounts of anxiety. Advocacy can only be done by those who are able to remain patient year after year, calmly working toward the goal. Humans don't change quickly, but when they do, we better have a sound message to share. If our message is one of hopelessness, the only thing we accomplish is sending our cause back to the stone age for the next few generations to seek and find. We have essentially become our own worst enemies.
And that's exactly what is happening right now.
How we got here isn't difficult to expain as racism trumps sexism every time. Racism has to do with both men and women, sexism is about how men treat women, and Intersectionality is about men, not women. We're supposed to protect transrights, although it appears only to be homophobia dressed in a new garb and an attempt to get rid of women as a class. No one can say what a woman is nowadays, and therefore there can be no women's rights. There can only be an assortement of rights that flow towards men, leaving women behind. A woman who dares to object is quickly labeled as a racist, a TERF, a bigot. Surely every woman should understand that there are bigger issues at play here than women's rights. Who cares about women's rights?
Well, I do. And so should every woman.
While we are told - once again - to set our own problems aside and work to free others, countless women live as second class citizens in their own homes. Women are still expected to do the majority of (unpaid) work, raise the next generation, work quietly in the background while men hog all the glory - the way they always have. Martin Luther King Jr was a human like all of us, and his failings prove once again that to trust that others will fight to free you is the most dangerous position to be in. King knew this himself, but it didn't make him more sympathetic toward the women in his life. And how could it? We're all blind when it comes to the oppression of others.
We don't need allies. What we need are women who are willing to fight for our rights as women everywhere around the world. Women who don't bow down to men's insistence that we exist to serve them. Or to the Intersectionals who insist we must set aside our own rights to fight for those who can't even tell what a woman is.
We all deserve more than this.