How many young women have said it, or at least thought about it?
But how many young women have thought why they have to say it?
You see, patriarchy tells men that sex is about conquest, and that women are objects to be pursued. But patriarchy tells also women that their purity is priceless, and must be guarded at all cost, and that the good guys will protect them.
Thus patriarchy creates a predator it has to control, and a prey that it has to try to protect.
The purity culture is one of the many attempts patriarchy has created to control men and women through shame. It tries to create the "good guys" who will hopefully treat women with respect, and the virtuous women who will "just say no." And the hope is that the shame will wear off on the wedding day; it rarely does.
Another attempt is the modesty movement that insists that if women just dressed modestly men wouldn't prey on them, and everyone would be safe and happy. But what the modesty movement does is take the shame experienced by men in the purity culture and by transferring it over to the women it makes them solely responsible for the behavior of the predator created by patriarchy. But as all animals know, camouflaging oneself works only as long as the background matches. A woman who leaves the confines of the women's world becomes automatically a target, regardless of what she wears. If clothes could prevent tragedy, the army would have zero sexual assaults per year.
In the end, the purity movement fails because lust is stronger than shame, and the modesty movement fails because the mindset instilled by patriarchy doesn't depend on clothing, but how men see women.
The remedies offered by patriarchy to the illnesses created by it's own ideology only perpetuates the problems. We can't fix a perception by dressing bodies in yards of fabric, or by shaming people for feeling something other than nothing. We need to create a new perception, a new mindset that causes men and women to see each other as human beings; nothing more, nothing less. For nothing more, or less, will fix the problems created by an ideology that insists that women aren't quite human, and therefore not really persons.